I want to continue the conversation here because I frequently have talks with clients about the benefits of checking in with their whole self. While many only take a few of the dimensions listed below seriously, it is important that we give each dimension adequate attention and make adjustments were needed.
I made a decision in January 2018 that I was leaving my job as a Clinical Director. I created an entire vision board around this goal and fed myself positive messages each day. I was at the height of my career at a very young age making “BOOCOO” money! But honestly, money could not buy me happiness or give me back the time with my family.
Have you ever heard of an Apology Language? I hadn't until recently and decided to do some investigating. I am a diehard Love Language fan and inevitably give the homework assignment to all of my couple’s counseling clients. Now I am all in on these Apology Languages. In relationships not only do we have a particular way we need to receive love, we also have a manner in which we need to receive an apology.
I can recall times leaving our appointments happy and holding hands, and other sessions walking out barely speaking to one another. It was a journey for sure, but one I feel was needed to build the strong foundation we have today, especially being a millennial married couple. One thing we both took from our time in counseling was the concept of love languages.
There is just not enough time in the day to do for myself at times. I don’t want to be seen as selfish when I declare I need a moment alone. I desire time to just cater to myself and shut everyone else off. Family, friends, and clients included! My body always reminds me when I need to slow down and have some me time and I always listen.
“During the Fall and Winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be "Cuffed" or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.”