You read it correctly, I don’t clean my house. Well, not anymore. Don’t judge me! A lot has changed in my life over the last few years and cleaning my house has fallen to the bottom of my to-do list. Each transition and added responsibility has taken away more and more of my capability to manage cleaning my home. As a wife, mother, and entrepreneur I struggle to balance it all! I spend my mornings and early afternoon at home with my daughter (no time to clean there) and go into my private practice in the late afternoon well into the evening/night (definitely not cleaning when I get home). I quickly found myself spending my precious weekends cleaning and missing quality time with my family and friends. I was using my last bit of energy to clean my home, just to turn around Monday morning to do it all over again. As you can see, something had to give! But I was hesitant to seek help. I called several house cleaning companies, got quotes, and even made some appointments. But once the dust settled (literally) I found myself talking down on myself for not being able to fulfill my “duties”. You would think as a therapist I would be a pro at time management, right? Since that is what I am always instilling into my clients.
Yes, I know what you’re thinking, “Where is her sorry husband at?”. Let’s set the record straight. My husband is not sorry (number one) and he works just as much as I do and does not get a moment alone to clean without the busy duty of managing a one year old (number two). And let’s face it, men just don’t clean with the same standard. This internal debate of hiring a cleaning company or sacrificing my peaceful weekends to clean went on for several months. Until one day I could not take it anymore. I was not willing to sacrifice time out of my private practice away from my clients or time away from my family and friends. So, feeling that it was my last resort to keeping my sanity I hired Maid Brigade. Those two ladies came and cleaned my house like I never could have! I mean from cleaning the recessed lighting to baseboards. This decision to seek help and not continue to try to be superwoman has changed my family's life for the better. I was once embarrassed to let people know I hired professional cleaners, worried that I would be viewed as lazy or not able to keep it all together. But now...ha! I shout loud and proud I DON'T CLEAN MY HOUSE.
Are you a busy professional struggling with work life balance? Maybe a person juggling a lot of responsibilities at once. With self-care in mind, what things have you outsourced to bring peace to your life? Do you agree with paying for convenience for a peace of mind?